>thinking about becoming trans againWhy does this shit keep happening like every year for a few weeks then it goes away?I've always been a gay femboy that wants to be in a relationship with another gay femboy.I keep thinking being a transbian relationship would make me happy but only if they didn't look cis and looked like a very feminine guy.I keep thinking I can't be trans because I don't want to be a cis woman with a pussy. But I still want to be a "woman".Goddamn I hate my confusing life.
>>33693512After you get off cycle testosterone drops like a rock, so its no wonder so many body builders troon out.Military is not a high testosterone thing either, it's high stress and high cortisol. The kind of physical activity they do lowers testosterone. And many soldiers also get PTSD which causes issues with identities and self image
>>33693474>Is it worth the loss of fertilityYes I have never had a desire to have children>voluntary dependence on expensive medical technologyI have money
>>33692551You think that's bad? Imagine you are blissfully repping, and a bio woman foid on the internet unironically tells you that you look like a woman.
Non binary here Stop conflating your life with mine.
>>33696097Maybe I am non-binary. How would you or I know at this point?
I told her last night, she has to stop completely. for a decade, she/we have done the "moderation" game. it does not work. the cycle: she gets bad, stumbling, blackout, dropping things style drunk several times a week. I get fed up, cal her out, explaining health and safety and financial risks. she stops totally for several days, then slowly starts back with a glass of wine while RV or gaming. within a few weeks she's day drinking. by a month, she's plastered when I get home 3-5 days week.she has begun trying to hide her daydrinking by cleaning and putting her drinking glasses up before I get home. putting away her cut up limes etc. and yesterday, I'm pretty sure she used visene to clear her eyes up.last night was it. I told her "no more 'moderation' you can't do it. your dad, brother and sister are all alcoholics. you complain about your dad's drinking"she was pretty butthurt, understandably, but she didn't try to lie or argue. it's gonna be a rough day/week for us both. aside from this one issue, we are 9.5/10 on the happy/success scale. we have everything anyone could want: farmhouse, 2 cars, debt free, livestock, awesome dog, modern amenities, etc.
we love eachother very much. she has plenty to keep occupied. she is a full-time farmer/rancher with multiple types of livestock, and Lott of gardening/orchard stuff to play with (I help anytime, any way, I am asked, as well as just offering help as I see may be needed.) she keeps house, cooks, bakes, breeds livestock and generally does whatever a large acreage homestead needs daily. she just does it all while daydrinking. she is otherwise very content. she hates people and public places. she always wanted to move to the countryside since we married. we did so in 2023. sold the suburban house, bought land, designed & built custom house, moved here to begin an awesome homestead lifestyle. she loves it. she never leaves unless she is forced to for a dr, eye, postal or grocery visit. she has TV, audio books & earbuds, Amazon for stuff, and I will supply her with anything she needs, so long as it's in budget. she has no issue with our budget or lifestyle. she just has her family's predisposition to booze. I tried to lead by example. I quit drinking last Nov. and stopped all THC use 2 months ago. ske is aware of both.I explained the issue to her last night with compassion and understanding. told her I know addiction, because I have been there. she does not contest. I explained my concerns were safety (farming and alone 8hrs/day), health, and financial risk. I am foolish enough to think this time may be the reset. instead of bargaining for "moderation" I explained that she clearly does not have that in her programming. it must be total cessation. since I don't partake anymore, and she now knows I can see her obvious "tells" despite her attempts at obfuscation, I hope for better result.I live to make her happy, as does she in return. our love, respect, faithfulness and dedication to oneanother should help. we shall see.
>>33691983The fact remains that she is not happy where she is and who she is with. If she is still drinking and unhappy that is just the fact. You can do whatever you need to do but if you're not the right person and if she's not in the right place then she will not be happy. That's just how it is
>>33691322Divorce
>>33692013Happy is not a fact
>>33691454>She's going to not be able to sleep very well. She's gonna feel sick the first few days. Then the cravings hit.Was it that bad for you? Were you drinking a lot?
23 and idk what to do with myself. I don’t know what a better choice would be. I can go to community college for free near me or somehow get into the trades (idk where to even start with that, does it require schooling? do I join a union? I’m not familiar with it). Is college even worth it anymore? I was gonna go for a Comp Sci degree but everyone says it’s brutal getting a job for it after college and AI is changing everything.I just need to do something to get myself out of working a part time dead end retail job with zero real experience outside of retail/hospitality and on the verge of being a neet since I only get paid like ~$150-200 a week. Just want advice on what how to have get a good stable job/career without making a big mistake.
Please anons I’ll literally let you guys pick my life for me at this point like a choose your own adventure game
>>33693979you're going to make multiple big mistakes in your life, so don't sweat this next choice. That being said community college is a great way to meet other people and actually take classes you *might* be interested in without breaking the bank. and don't think too hard about it, the best choice is usually the one you just go for
I can speak for the trades. I am an electrician. If you are in the US, try contacting your local IBEW union hall. If not, try working in an open shop (non-union) and see how you like it. When you apply, be honest and tell them you don’t know shit. Trades are old school and care less about a resume than some other fields might. Tools (in any trade) are an investment you will need to make. As an electrician’s apprentice, you can expect to probably spend around $400 for basic tools but could get away with less if you need to. As a whole, the career won’t make you rich unless you own a business but the benefits can be great. It’s somewhat fulfilling. AI isn’t taking it anytime soon either. It’s only as dangerous as you let it be. I might try to come back to this thread tomorrow. I hope I was of at least a little help. I’m pretty tired. I never ever come here and just felt compelled to say something. Being young is hard these days. Also you’ll have to deal with retarded boomer fucks all day but that’s okay. Just go to work and keep your head down. Don’t pay to go to trade school either. Just find a company to go work for. Call them and bother them relentlessly.
>>33693979What do you want to be when you grow up? Put a different way, what kind of life do you want to live? Do you see yourself married/single? Living in city/suburb/country? House/apartment/other? Work in office/store/factory/outdoors/other? Work with brain/hands/back/voice? Primary interaction with people/machines/telephone/computer/nature/other? Work in suit/casual/uniform/overalls/other?
>>33693979Trades require you to go to community college.If you want to become a union electrician for example, you receive an associates degree from a community college.Do whatever you had a passion for when you were young and who cares what anyone thinks.Don't worry about getting a job or stability, everything is changing so fast. In your case, look at the programs at your community college and find out what looks interesting. Enjoy your early 20s. It is a time where you actually start to self actualize as an adult and find some meaning in your life. And you have plenty of energy to experiment and try new things. If you fail, the risks are almost zero. You can start over again.
>What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!>How to ask for adviceContext is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Resources and BooksWingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmamDr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Realistically I just want to meet a nice woman who’s also in her late 20s and have a nice quiet 40 years or so together before I kick the bucketI don’t expect her to be a model with a perfect body I just want her to be loyal and not completely let herself goIs this not even achievable for an average man in 2025?
>had an account on bumble, tinder (for a very short time) and hinge>account pretty much the same on all of them>got (and still get) some likes on bumble/tinder>never ever ever get anything on hingewhat's going on here? It's not a problem with low userbase because I live in one of the most populated cities in my country and there's plenty of accounts
>Went on a date with someone I've seen a couple of times before>Turned into a disasterclass at the end>She tended to talk a lot before we met and talks a lot in the lead up to any date>Dry as fuck in between that>Seems more than obvious she's talking to other people>Make an insinuation about something yesterday which would certainly be considered a next step>She's very enthusiastic about it>Back to being dry as fuckWhat's the best way of dealing with this kind of situation?
>>33696066What are your prompts?
>>33695982Yes this is still possible in 2025. Just get hobbies and meet women through that
>over 2 months co-worker and I get closer.>go out partying with some friends, get drunk.>we go back to her place, only for her to sit me down and tell me she's not interested. >convince her to give me a chance, we hook up and have a great night.>2 days later we go out for coffee, she tries to break up with me, i convince her not to since we didn't even really date properly.>we have a great rest of the day together.>back at work over the past 2 weeks she rotates between being friendly and cold.>text messages are curt no matter what.>she's avoided every chance to hang out.What am I supposed to do now? I cannot get a read at all on what I need to get her out of this weird back and forth. I haven't been in a relationship for 6 years, is this just what it's like to date when you're old?
she wasn't having a great time during youe stay nor during your date.she's told you twice she's not interested, and is probably afraid you're going to do something as you know where she lives nowleave her alone you twat
please leave her alone anon
>>33692997>>33693053You're completely correct. I just needed someone else to say it. I'm so stupid.
>>33692494You want romance. She wants a friend.
>>33692494She's not really attracted to you, but enjoys having you as a friend.You pushed her into having sex, and now that she is sober she is worried about the ramifications.In other words, she's concerned you might push her for a relationship, mess up her job, act like a creepy nut job who stalks her.So where do you go from here?Depends on how you feel about her.If you actually want a relationship with her, I would meet up with her be direct and apologize. You misread into something you thought was there. So you are setting boundaries, which will ruin the friendship and keep things professional.If you just want friends with benefits, she might be interested but you have to be able to keep it cool and discreet. If she thinks you are going to catch feelings it is going to creep her out.I don't think the two of you can just be friends anymore, you ruined that for one night of horny.
>be me recently broken up with working on myself>6 foot, 6 figures, working on 6 pack>meet girl, she is funny, tall, thin, white>she moves in super quickly>her mom is weird and obese but not dating her mom so idgaf>we date for 2 years, propose>my family asks "any health issues in your family?" hers replies "diabetus">engaged 6 months, married>get pregnant on the honeymoon>"wow this is easy">baby is born, healthy baby girl. wife is normal for one week. Slowly slips into insanity>Talking to herself / hearing voices, seeing things, staying awake for weeks, delusions>Get her into the mental hospital>"oh yea grandma was institutionalized 4 times for bipolar, and everyone on her moms side is bipolar, we saw some signs with annoette but didn't think it was a problem">Psychiatrist "you now have a Bipolar 1 psychotic wife anon gods speed"Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33693268Thinking with your dick wasn't a smart move.You always check out the mother/grandmother before seriously considering marriage, because she will end up somewhat like her mom.But going forward (assuming you have matured past being a retard), document everything so you can portray her as neglectful and batshit insane.Get her committed for mental health a couple times, even if it is a 72 hour hold. Hire the best divorce attorney you can.Sue for full custody.Alternatively you could bail on your daughter and just pay child support but this would be a loser move, because your wife obviously can't care for a child.
>>33694379i (had) bi-polar 1, and this is true. ((((it developed into a schizo illness, lol))))
What the actual fuck? This is nightmare fuel. I'm never getting married or having kids.Reminds me of a joke:>Why is divorce so expensive?>Because it's worth it!
>>33693268sounds like the end of the pregnancy triggered postpartum psychosis/latent mental illness in a woman who was already prone to mental illness. according to official sources ppp lasts 6-12 months but can last much longer. id say you give it at least another year and try to get her to improve, or try to ween off the meds. i think it is very hard for women to be un-convinced that their neuroses and diagnoses don't define them so try to work on that too, maybe therapy would help
OP you also absolutely need to prevent your daughter from reproducingDon't let her ruin some dudes life in 20ish years
Approaching women is easy. You don't need to *know* how to do it. Our ancestors have been doing it every single generation, there is no way such a basic thing needs to be learned. No. It's simpler. You just do it. Or you don't. If you did approach a girl, then you did everything right. Then what is the reason I have been rejected every single time? I have been thinking about it hard. And after going back to the very first time I ever approached a girl, it occurred to me. There isn't a specific mistake I did, or something *wrong* about me. I didn't do anything wrong. It's just that, it's impossible for everyone to get a gf. Not everyone gets to start a family, and reproduce. This is true for animals, this is true for humans. And it is naive, and childish, to hope that (you) specifically are not one of the unlucky ones. Because you are so special and great, and went through so much more than other people. Well, I am the unlucky one. That is the whole reason. No "too weird, too shy, too ugly, autistic, said the wrong thing, looked the wrong way, used an android instead of an iphone" excuses. No. Having sex is fucking easy. Even I understand that. But nature rejected me, women embodying that nature. Stories from friends and relatives confirm, Sex. Is. Easy. Just exist, and it will happen. And if it didn't, then it will not happen, no matter what you do. What's next? Work. Labor. Contribute to society so that the other ones will have so much more than I ever had, and enjoy their life to its fullest. It's not like others don't have to work. It's just that they get so much more out of it. Incomparably more. While I get not even scraps from the table. It's like an engine running without oil. Or a slave, or a prisoner working without food. Except being a slave, or a serf, in a way, is still better. These could at least have sex.
>>33695785Approaching women is harassment bro
>>33695785jackass
The word "loser" in my language literally translates to "unlucky". It is not derived from the verb "lose", like in english, but instead comes from the word "luck". Implying that any failure or success in a persons life is up to luck and fate. We don't have a direct "loser" word, just "unlucky".
>>33695785>Our ancestors have been doing it every single generationConsidering the majority of men historically did not reproduce they obviously didn't
It's always about having to finish my classes despite knowing I already graduated Usually I'm not doing very wellWhat does this mean and how do I stop having these dreams?
>>33692683I'm 30 and still have these dreams, either undergrad or high school classes. Maybe they'll stop once my life gets better
>>33692683Me too, OP.I still get those dreams at 34 YO now.And the other variation is, im at my old HS or College campus and I keep looping around, inside the building. Not sure where I am supposed to go.It basically means you feel unfulfilled in life. What exactly is up to you to find out…
>>33692683The single most common nightmare in the Western world is running through the halls of your high school to get to an exam you haven't prepared for.It's analyzed in psych textbooks. It's an expression of freefloating anxiety. You are worried about something and your brain reaches back to the most anxious period in your life to find the symbolic vocabulary to deal with it
>>33692683Hmm...until your post, I forgot I used to have these.I had these dreams up until around 23 or so.They involved missing a course so I was short one course for graduation or I missed a couple days of important finals.I think it is unresolved anxiety about entering adulthood.I didn't have a lot of direction after graduating because I made high school my entire world.Once I started self actualizing and adulting away from the constraints of being a student, the dreams went away. Ie got my own place, started a business, had to pay bills.
>>33696213>you don't directly tell someone you aren't going to credit them for work before giving them something to do. who does she think she is?Does she want credit for doing her job?Are you just jealous of her?
>>33696218So being told to do a whole section of her work and being told directly "so I look better" is suddenly ok when she then moves 3 things once then fucks off to watch TV?
>>33696224>So being told to do a whole section of her work and being told directly "so I look better" is suddenly ok when she then moves 3 things once then fucks off to watch TV?No, why hasn't your supervisor called her out?
>>33696229She probably has, from what I know the only reason she's still there is because they need the position filled until someone else can fill it. They have been hounding one person, who's extremely good at their job, to step up to take the role for the past week or so.
>>33696237Why not just fire her now
>everything men do is for pussyThere are so many people on the on self improvement train the past two decades it's unreal, and I'm not talking about gym because many of them don't even hit the gym but instead do other activities, I'm talking about making money, being social, doing activities, hobbies, just keeping busy in general and making their life as interesting as possible to attract pussy. They are doing all that for pussy, constantly chasing a better looking pussy, younger, fresher, etc. until eventually they find one they are satisfied with so they can fertilize it but even then many of them continue to chase pussy on the side. Some of these boomers are 70+ and still chase pussy, that's right many divorced boomers have girlfriends, just look at that tremendous Eastwood faggot who found a new pussy at 70 or 80 and married for the 6th time. Not to mention famous chads like Julio Iglesias who had thousands of pussies throughout his life.All that self-improvement, customs, social mores, hobbies, cultural events and other activities people do is to attract pussy so they can breed the next generation of goyim cattle and feel desired, loved and appreciated by their pussy and progeny.
>>33692143Kys kike shill bot.>>33692085I do a lot to avoid pussy and a lot to avoid having to clown myself out to get pussy
>>33692361Back to your containment board fag
>>33692085You've posted this over 25 times already so farhttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/search/text/%3Eeverything%20men%20do%20is%20for%20pussy/page/1/You must be a very cool dude and definitely not some disabled NEET trying to cope.
>>33692582Nice
>>33692582>Fulfilling your biological imperative>Making your parents and ancestors proudIt's funny how the only people who talk like this are online larpers of which the vast majority are virgins or unmarried themselves. 99.9% of people only have kids because "I want a family" (and nearly half of kids are accidental). Nobody says "I want to preserve my bloodline and honor my ancestors therefore I need to have kids", that shit is autistic as fuck.
I've had this phenomenon happen to me where whenever I abstain from masturbating for a week or more, and then go back to it, the masturbation feels almost ticklish at first before quickly growing into extreme pleasure and an uncontrollable orgasm.Has anyone else had this happen to them? And if so, how long do you usually have to abstain before it happens?
>>33688134What's the best way of abstaining and doing that?
>>33687451i get this but without needing to abstainactually if you do it more often and lean into the sensation it'll train your body and keep getting more pleasurable than the last timeif you want to go further than this, seek to orgasm without touching your dick (estim for example) and you will be able to prolong an orgasm for as much as a few minutes, and if you do it right there wont be a mess or refractory period meaning you can keep goingmy word of warning though is that one time i got heat exhaustion after a 4 hour session
>>33695068>estim for exampleFor some reason, every resource about this is gay as fuck. Anal, prostate, sounding.
>>33695068Please share the strat for the best/longest orgasm possible
>>33695993I went 100 days without releasing. Actually took 6 hours of edging to break my streak and the eventual orgasm felt weak.It is weird. When you stop fapping all the time, your body reprioritizes and adjusts sensitivity.But yeah even if you stop for a week it is a different kind of orgasm. More of a dry orgasm for me.
me and my ex both grew dirt poor and managed to get good paying jobs on IT but compared to her i kinda feel like a failure, we are both 25 but she's dating some older dude who pays her trips to Europe and expensive clothes meanwhile i'm still renting some shitty place and trying to build a startup with some Friends, i can't help but feel kinda bad, like there's some invisible competition between us to see which one is doing better at life, i know she still stalks my social media, and i do too. i think women can just jump into a relationship with some rich dude and a big part of their life is solved, while we guys can't really "climb up" in dating.
>>33693695they live longer on average
Women do not experience life the same way we men do. It's not even comparable. Asserting whose life is harder or easier is pointless. There is a reason the word "man" is used as a synonym for "human", anon.
>>33694832Is the 4chan tranny cult still going on? GTFO, faggot.
>>33694832>Alright, I became an ugly tranny. So, when does my life start improving?
>>33693695Women aren't men. If you are that jealous of them, take hormones and pretend you are a woman.By your logic horny simps will throw money at you.I will also say that you are mostly seeing young attractive women and are ignoring old unattractive woman. Go to a trailer park and meet some 55 year old woman and ask her how easy her life is.
Why do I always do things for people over and over and over and over and over.Then when I ask for one thing, the smallest most insignificant thing they say no.I don't get it. I really don't.I get I'm not supposed to be thinking about favors as transactional but why am I always the one doing favors. I get it's a supply and demand thing or people can detect when someone is too giving and nice and exploit it but what the fuck is wrong with helping others in general?One time I thought I found an actual real friend because he did one fucking thing for me, One fucking thing, I know, pathetic, fuck me right? Turns out he was just love bombing me to manipulate me later. But I can't help but keep helping others. It's in my fucking self depreciating masochist nature which I need to change. Just so fucking exhausted. So fucking tired. Go ahead fucking roast me tell me to kill myself whatever, I always say I'm done being nice then I forget about it and do it again. But this time? Ah, fuck it who gives a shit about anything.
>>33695847Let's see if the world works right then. I guess after theory, empirical approaches may confirm or not certain things.
Hey man, I was the same like 3 years ago. Ive went to a point where id spent hundreds for them like im some ATM machine, yet when I ask for somethin they say shit like “Sorry man cant do that for you.” like huh?? Best thing to do is literally say no. Forget giving a fuck about your feelings “no they might get angry” “they might hate me” what about you gang? Say no if they dont show the same amount of effort as you. If they arent willing to do what you do for them, then dont do it. It’s hard at first but when you pull it off, it’s just so much easier for your life.
>>33695847It's small shit like I helped you move but you can't print this thing out for me when you have access to a printer. >>33695889Yeah but then I feel bad. It's fucking retarded. >>33695918Nah I wouldn't spend money on them. Moreso just actions. Time.
>>33695976>Yeah but then I feel bad.Embrace the doormat then!
>>33695199This is a you issue.Either you enjoy doing things for people who are more needy and are less able to do things back for you, or you are a unlikeable person who tries to buy people with favors. They don't really like you but put up with you to get things.My advice, form friendships with people who view relationships as more transactional.
What should I order at McDonalds?
>>33694455What’s deluxe about it?
YES! YES! EAT ZE MCDONALD'S, GOY! GOOD GOY GOOD! EAT ZE SLOPPA!
fattening goyslop
>>33694404First let me tell you this, you should kill yourself. Really, kill yourself faggot, the world would be a better place without you, do it now. McDonalds is not unhealthy? Literally all I said is true. Fuck off Ronald Macdonald https://hsph.harvard.edu/news/ultra-processed-foods-some-more-than-others-linked-to-early-death/https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6146358/https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-03-01/junk-ultra-processed-food-health-outcomes-study/103526352https://www.thcfarmer.com/threads/mcdonalds-fast-food-toxic-ingredients-include-putty-and-cosmetic-petrochemicals.53127/https://www.mashed.com/222624/ingredients-youd-be-surprised-are-in-the-mcdonalds-food-youre-eating/https://www.foodandwine.com/news/mcdonalds-burger-king-forever-chemicals-packaging-lawsuithttps://www.usatoday.com/story/news/health/2021/10/27/dominos-mcdonalds-chemicals-plastics-detected-fast-food/8574237002/https://flamepizza.co.nz/top-6-toxic-ingredients-used-by-mcdonalds/And so forth. Everything I said is true and im always right.>>33694443Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33693531>protein makes you fatRetard
im willing to sift through the chaff on this one. someone called me ugly today for the first time in my adult life, and i need to know a general consensus. i’d like to know what you think about how i look, and PLEASE be honest. i’d prefer if you weren’t mean, but i realize that might be a lot to ask considering the address. to be clear, i’m not asking for compliments either; just a third party with no skin in the game. i hate that i think in numbers, but ive always seen myself as somewhere between a 5-6; i see it as a measure of the ease i have moving through society, considering horrible social skills
>>33695258not ugly
>>33695258if i saw you on the street I wouldnt think 'fuck shes hot' and i wouldnt think 'fuck shes ugly', id think nothing at all
>>336952583 because you are white and some desperate simp will still breed you, otherwise a 2.5. You could become a 4 if you looksmaxx however your youth is almost gone so diminishing returns on improving your looks.
>>33695258Average. I would say maybe a 5.You aren't ugly by any means but you are a cishon.Genuinely curious if you are a lesbian because you have that look about you.The first thing people notice about your is your breasts and then your face second.
Pretty average I'd say 5/10 but as others have mentioned the fashion isnt doing you any favors. Being overweight though is really dragging you down if you lost some weight and dressed better you'd probably be more of a 6/10 maybe even 6.5/10 hard to tell but definitely not ugly.Also taste is somewhat subjective even if you're the most average persob there can be some outliers will call you ugly while others will call you pretty so best not to put too much weight on any one opinion.
