So I'm a fucking monster. About five years ago I cheated on my girlfriend by sexting an intellectually disabled woman for a couple nights before coming to my senses. I confessed, lost everything, my friends and my family want nothing to do with me (justifiably). Since then I've been kicked out of my BJJ gym (an ex friend talked with the head instructor about what I did), was fired (another friend went to my manager with what I did), and I went from an apartment to a very cheap sublet room. I think it's justified, all of it, but I need to stop wallowing and do something decent with the rest of my life. I'm already volunteering, but still wake up most nights guilty, comparing myself to a rapist or a paedophile. How do I move on?
>>34012592Your gf made you feel shame.And then she threw you away. Making sure she was considered morally right by all. Including you.Also this fucked up your life. And the worst part: you believe to deserve it.
>>34013003t. OP is a retard and the problem lies deeper than just a simple 4chan post.Also OP is a normie. Feels bar is opened. Get yourself a freebe. It's on OP.
>>34011772Ask the people you care about i.e. those family and friends what you can do to make things right.
>>34042758Didn't I deserve it though? Everyone thought so.>>34042763Eh, I'm not full normie but I fake it well enough.>>34043861I tried. They either said that it was unforgivable, or I'm blocked outright on anything that I could use to contact them. They made it very clear they want nothing to do with me ever again.
>>34011772This is such a nothingburger, like what... people with a mental impairment can't experience eros morally? "She was only 22 you sick fuck."It's not like you spent weeks and months grooming her and misled her into thinking you'd have Le Eternal Marriage or sth, it was a couple of days? She's been over it and you just have to reflect sincerely for 30 minutes a few times over and it's done.If anything you're the intellectual retard for not seeing that sexting "on your level" is more fun because it can last longer, because it naturally stays wholesome longer.You need to get over the guilt trips and particularly face down your shame, shame is your issue, but in terms of what you did it's nothing.Just "face it", don't go into some shame trip, don't go into some guilt trip, learn more patience and equinamity and then gently remind yourself of it for a moment to see how reactive you still are, and work that down. That's the issue.>t. sexually assaulted an autistic girl one time while sleep drunk and felt horrible about it for a long time
I'll be moving to a new city in June for work and will stay there for at least 6 months, it's in Germany, and I'm not even German, I'm Italian, I don't know a single person in the city.The thing is I recently broke up with my girlfriend after 4 years and now that I'm 22 I don't feel like getting into another relationship, and I've always had a kink for MILFs, so I've been wondering if I should download Tinder or something else and just look for as many hot single mother's as I can find and bang them all, is it a good idea?
>>34035226Depends on what sort of girl you want to marry in future, a nice trad girl would be very put off if you have a manslut history.
>>34041054Dating apps have turned into escort services.
>>34043751who cares?
>>34043772I can still get laid though that's the thing
>>34044004It won't be that easy I can tell you that anon, it definitely won't
Why does arguing with random people online make me feel like a big man?
>>34044421You finally found someone who is just as dumb as you are.
>>34044421it's the opposite for me, even when I win the arguments I still leave shaken and angry and ruins the rest of my day, I prefer when I don't argue with anyoneI've even blocked problematic people that AGREE with my points of view in twitter because when i see them constantly picking up fights it just feels bad.It might have to do with my parents fighting a lot when i was a kid and me being (admittedly) very fragile.
>>34044421reaffirms you're the main character anon...keep taking it to em
>>34044487>Finally Anonymous, I've been searching all my life.
>>34044421You have seriously misplaced priorities and a complete lack of understanding of what being man entails.
Where do I find a femcel gf? I dont care if she has poor hygiene, mental health issues or porn addiction, I just want a smelly fujo femcel.
>>34044646Femcels dont exist retard. They're hypergamous chadonly whores.
>>340445324? years since we separated I think. I may as well be 5150'd at this point. I know just how mentally ill it comes across. We knew each other for 6? years, proposed to her and all.It just comes in waves where I'm fine then when I'm in a dark place, for a moment, like a flash all I see, and feel, and smell was what it was like to be beside her. I've had new girlfriends since her, but it's just never been the same, I just miss her smile, I miss her hair, I miss her face, I miss her body, I miss her tits, I miss her jokes, I miss her kiss, I miss her everything and no one has captured my heart again since.I wonder why I can't let go, I don't know if it's because I can rationalise what happened, but not really process it, the grief, the... mess of it all.In a way I find it incredible that women go away, they think, they process, they silently grieve and they move on nearly instantly. I believe she did that with me, pushed me away when I all I wanted was to be closer to her, she had me delete all her photos of her in front of her, she acted off, said she'd rather me look at porn than her, all of these things like daggers through my heart and... I left because I felt like if I stayed I'd only be hurt even more when every day it felt like she was ripping my heart out more and more.When I left her I felt free from all the conflict we had, the misery, the distance she inflicted onto me and yet all I feel now is heart break. I just keep thinking I should have seen the signs and fixed it, I know with hindsight I could have, breaking one too many promises on my end, acting like a dickhead at times, being mentally tunnel visioned on COVID and all the things that I couldn't control and not on what I could.I wish I could have fixed it. Thanks for reading my Tedx talk.
>>34044578Retardation?
>>34044581Just plain mental illness I think, kek.It just seems to be a mental scar I can't seem to get over, even though I know it's not good for me.
I was drunk again last night, and woke up feeling that I'm tired of it. I know I'm bored, I know I'm lonely, and in a bad place. But dude, I'm just over it, waking up feeling like shit, headache, nausea, upset stomach. And its all for nothing, I feel like I did when I wanted to get sober and I do want to be sober again. Plus, drinking alone is bad. If you're not in a social environment, or around friends having a couple you don't need to be drinking. Took me a while to get why society looks down on that. You don't have a couple when it's appropriate, you're a fucking drunk.
If I don’t kill myself before 33 something went way wrong
When I first had my son I was hoping he'd be the opposite of me in every way. I was always a very shy unathletic nerd who got bullied daily (both verbally and physically) by my stronger more assertive peers and because of that I'm now an adult with really severe depression as well as massive anxiety and distrust of people. I was hoping my son would be the opposite of me. I was hoping he'd be the one DOING the bullying if anything. But he's now in the second grade after having completed first grade and kindergarten and unfortunately he's a carbon copy of me. At first we thought it was just his kindergarten class but then the same thing happened in first and second grade and transferring schools didn't work either because he was bullied in the new school as well. Whenever I tried bringing it up to the teachers they basically didn't give a shit and just used the boys will be boys excuse. Even when he had several bruises and shit. I tried to get my son more into sports but he prefers drawing and writing stories. I tried to tell him that when bullies attack him fight back I don't care if he gets in trouble for standing up for himself but he just doesn't have it in him and lets them beat him up. I also tried contacting the parents of the bullies but the parents are also bullies themselves.So far my son is EXACTLY the way I was when I was his age. It's like I'm a father to my younger self. And I worry he'll end up just like me, depressed, full of anxiety, and very distrusting of people. My wife has no idea what to do either because as a girl growing up no one bullied her. So I'm at a loss here. Practically the only difference between my son and me at his age is he's slightly smarter and doesn't make as many stupid mistakes.
>>34040623This. Stay away from the gay, meme, trad arts.
Bump
>>34021074Get your son on a healthy dose of ultraviolence. I was the smallest weakest kid at school and started to get bullied by older kids but my dad made me watch westerns and play violent videogames until I got it and stabbed a bully's hand with my pencil
>>34044536Lol I also stabbed someone with a pencil. So many blood. I should have done it more.
>>34021074He needs intense socialization training by involving him in more activities with children his age outside of school so he learns that not every single person he meets is going to act the way he experiences at school. He has come under the assumption that being good and nice means never being assertive, and that banter is generally just bullying; if he could learn to give as well as he gets he will be better off and bullying will turn into friendly ribbing. Martial arts, scouting, Christian activities, get him into a band and get him a guitar or bass or drum kit and lessons. You will also need to talk to him plainly every once in a while about how he cannot know what other people think without being told by that person and that not everybody will be 100% about them but that’s okay because not everybody needs to be about you and to not let it take him out but to be discerning about the people he associates with. Also double check with his mom that she hasn’t done something retarded like tell him he’s getting given up for adoption as a tot out of anger, that kind of shit fosters major abandonment issues and a chronic fear of being tossed out of you’re not the perfect child.
>Be as brief or as detailed as you want.
Just tapping in here to check if anyone says red hair. Just trying to confirm a few things for myself.
>>34040237If the only thing they value is externalities, no decent man will want someone who has such poor character.Negative Score on Motherly Material.
>>34034188Good communication skillGood hygieneLikes meNot Indian
He makes me laugh
>>34043964Racist
>>34034088Wish list or actual needs?The wish list is basically>Ginger hair>ShortThe need list I've found is >A bit of wit>Has the ability for a verbal back and forth>seamless chemistryThat lack of tension and pull, that lack of mutual butterflies kills me, I like being in love like a drunk, where all the rhythms in life are in flow, being in a romance that is stone cold sober loses that magic to me, you can only ever see the flaws of the other no matter how nice or loving they are to you.
OP should have included age as minimum criteria, would've been very telling. So many replies from children who've never been in a relationship. Don't wait too long, idealists! Your eugenics program will fail you in the long run, but a good girl who lasts beyond the honeymoon phase and proves to be an asset is hard to come by.
Can't believe dumb bitch got knocked up by Elon
I want a hot alt girl but they’re life ruining. I should’ve learned my lesson twice, I’m too ugly and older now to attract any, but I still dream about them.
>>34034088>honest>communicative>wants kids>health conscious>has creative hobbies>appreciates acts of service>empathetic and kind but fair>speaks English fluently>has a job>has friends>wants to grow with me>Christian>loves me and respects me
I got drunk and told my gf my fantasy of wanting to see her have sex with a black man and she got really horny and we fucked really hard she was literally drenched. Couple days after that she asked me to tell her the hottest fantasy scenario where and how it'd happen and again we ended up having great sex. But what do I do now? I'm scared I might have steered the relationship in a direction where it'll eventually go wrong. I really need advice obviously I can't ask this kind of shit outside of 4chan but everyone here thinks I make it up because we have weirdo larpers no one is taken seriously
you cooked bro... find her a bull and become a cuck or end the relationship
I'm unsure if I'm mentally disabled or if I just missed out on key socialization from a young age but I act like a chud in social settings. Otherwise I think I'm fine but I hardly socialize and when I do I'm a chud. I have a full house but I stay in my room because I live with she-chuds who will only make me worse. I want to behave like a normal person in social scenarios or even just out in public but don't know how. Tried therapy but it's just a money sink and not worth it.The only thing I can think of is take some time away from social media, hang out with my chud family, and talk to people at my college. That's all very difficult though and I don't have any confidence and I'm socially anxious. I'd rather take normal pills but I wouldn't have any idea what I would need.
> live with she-chuds who will only make me worseHave sex with them?? Or, if they're your relatives, give me their info so I can have sex with them and give you new little members of the chudson family?
>>34044535NGMI
You know who else is a Chud? Pewdiepie. The difference is, his personal life is good. Millionaire, famous, good looks, has a loving family. His key to success was keeping the chud opinions to himself and playing harmless kiddie games until he made it. Same with Asmonbum.
>>34044573Asmongoloid is a Thiel-banrolled nu-rightoid shill who nuthugs pajeets and kikes
>>34044535What is a she-chud? Can I have one?
Are girls in general just more scared of committing to a relationship now?I can't seem to keep a gf proper... All they want is something casual, conveni-dick, non-committal but sexual.All my friends have GFs, but then again most of them have been together for 5+yrs.I'm meeting women on apps AND in-person (meetups and events)... They just treat me as a repeat-hookup rather than someone who wants to date them.
>>34042648>It's just the Madonna whore complex for womenexactly, you get itit's funny that Madonna whore is usually associated with men, when the average woman had it 10X worse
>>34040699>Are girls in general just more scared of committing to a relationship now?No. They're less scared of not committing.
>>34042654>>34042293So how come all my friends have girls? Is it really just a "modern" issue?Also I really don't get "having your emotional needs fulfilled by simps" like, why would you care what some simp you presumably hate/resent thinks?
>>34040699As a woman- as much as want a relationship- I do NOT trust myself to hold onto one because at some point I'm going to start self sabotaging and everything will fall apart and it'll be messy. I know damn well if I get into a relationship my lover will leave having some regrets.
>>34043601You probably have BPD, its okay because 90% of women has that these days. there are pills for it.
I recently finished a personal project after months of introspection. Atm friends and I are calling it "Psychological Profile Mapping" (PPM).In essence, it's a framework to use in doing introspection. It's not a replacement for a clinician. We highly recommend taking it to your clinician actually.I'm offering doing a PPM with people if they would like to have me run them through the process, or you can do it on your own. (feedback on your experience is very much appreciated!)Please keep in mind that you have no obligation to share your PPM with anyone. Though, and I'm repeating just for emphasis, we recommend taking it to a clinician. This is just another tool in your tool box. It's not an end all be all, just an earnest attempt to improve mental health and cut out a lot of wasted time and effort. An example of how a PPM could be useful:Say you are experiencing depressive symptoms while also having ADHD-like traits. Your depression may actually be related to dopamine issues and not serotonin. So taking an SSRI may not have any benefit, or could even be harmful. While taking an NDRI might relieve depressive symptoms on top of helping manage your ADHD-like traits. Being able to recognize your root issue is likely dopamine means you can skip the trial and error of antidepressants and go straight towards getting an ADHD evaluation. Handing your PPM to your clinician should help them see the logic behind it and be more inclined towards treating ADHD symptoms first instead of depression symptoms. (I write from personal experience as someone that got to end antidepressant trialing quickly and move to ADHD treatment for this reason)If you'd like to do a PPM with me, would like a printable PDF, have any questions or would like to give feedback my discord is:odd.cogComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34043617The thing that would help people is treatments, which this might lead someone to doing, however it establishes an false attitude towards diagnosis and trauama.Frankly the better version would just be getting someone to write down a life history as comprehensively as possible then ask an LLM to suggest treatments/practices from a variety of schools of thought/perspectives to improve it. Obviously might be hard to get normies to do that but it avoids the bad stuff in this. LLMs are very good at doing research to find treatments for various conditions and suggesting practices (if used properly, most people will just see what the first response is and take it as fact.) I also think the intentional restriction to "therapy" variations is just sort of you not understanding this subject. The majority of treatments are not therapy, the basic "self care" stuff like exercise, meditation, walking in the morning, fixing sleep, etc. has just as good if not better impact than most therapies or medications for many conditions. Therapy and it's variations is just another treatment approach which should be selected, people choosing which therapist or group therapy program they choose depend on LLM output is fair though. Also on LLM you NEED to specify they need to do a deep research request, not just enter this into an LLM. I'd show a screenshot of the button to use on different llms. Normies will use the cheapest/stupidest llm, et some totally hallucinated output because they are using the free one and think it's real. I'm not sure which ones offer those for free now but that would be worth telling people about.
>>34043617cont.The fundamental issue with your suggestion is it essentially frames their life issues as coming from the listed conditions/traumas. If you frame it this way the LLM is likely to reinforce that. LLMs work simply based on text pattern recognition and if you frame things as being rotoed in some fundamental trauma's or "conditions" (mental health diagnosis ARE NOT conditions, they are invented categories/heuristics for doing research and treatment, no one "has" a mental illness. This is not a fringe opinion this is what they actually are, here is a talk by the head of psych at johns hopkins about it https://youtu.be/Af5RSk6Bx-Y this one is specifically on how the hyper specific causal framings can damage patients, relevant to you). This form is basically set up for the LLM to teach someone their life has issues because of some magical "conditions" (that don't exist) and some weird hyper specific/negative framing of their life history and putting a huge emphasis on negative events. The issue is because how LLMs work with your framing it will in effect try to teach people that this IS the cause of their issues, and put a huge weight on the trait/"trauma". Most normies have 0 concept of what llms actually are and are likely to by into it and I see this as basically leading to people just buying into AI hallucinations and sort of deeply undermining the capacity for actually understanding their issues.I've had people do something vaguely similar and the inane fucking bullshit people will read and think is "insightful" especially using psychological/llm language is insane, people are very susceptible to just buying into whatever it says even if it is baseless or fundamentally meaningless. Using your form it will just teach them your frankly unresearched, unjustifiable and false foundation of "conditions" + "trauma" = your issues which will be bad for people, sine though the treatments might help you know 90% won't actually do them.
>>34044572cont. again.The only valuable way to have something like this would to have it be specifically a-causal, to not "force" specific causes onto the user like you are doing (since the LLM will just argue in defense of your shitty ideas) have it focused basically exclusively on any practical stuff they could do to improve their life/therapy programs/treatments they can find. Deep research modes can if they put in the city they live in find specific group therapy programs, or say if it's social issues places they could go to try talking to people. That stuff is valuable. LLMs should not be used at all to try to establish anything causal and it should be prompted specifically to say that, for the input just have some more open ended description from that person about their life and their issues, and ask it to suggest practical things they can do to improve it. The focus on "conditions" and "trauma" is just like you hallucinating from talking to LLMs practically it doesn't actually give any insight or practical benefit. Someone just describing in brief a life history, their current issues, and how they'd like to improve their life and what is impeding them, then getting a deep research request for specific practices they can do to achieve that (which might include say specific therapies or other practices) would be easier and more effective than yours. As I said reading this w/ the emphasis on causes makes me feel like the LLM hallucinated causes at you and you just believed them, which is the risk with this stuff.The main issue is because of the specific nature of the first part of the form, that is what LLMs will teach authoritatively as actually being the case, the cause of their life issues, which is just not true. The fact you didn't specify deep research, or WHICH llms to use (people will just use the cheapest free one and believe all the hallucinations) also suggests to me you have a very limited understanding of even how to use llms well.
>>34043617My issues with therapists is that they never really care much, it's ridiculous. As it's part of a mentality that judges the severity of a trauma. Even though I have long lasting effects, it maybe would not be a big deal for someone else. Like imagine if you have been on bail for "only" 1 week instead, and tell them it affected you a lot. It's getting brushed off because "it was just one week, just let it go" and those therapists do more harm than help. Because you start to see the fault in you instead. And the advice is basically>just force yourself to do the stuff you are afraid ofIt's all so tiresome. It sounds great, but I'm too exhausted to try rn
>>34044582also final in general:I love how easy it is to see someone comes up with some harebrained scheme talking to an LLM and is totally convinced it makes sense and is rational because they got tricked by some middling llm model and probably weren't even using a good one. This shit really obvious if you interact with LLM lots where it's just a bunch of loose not really related ideas chained together with nothing underlying them but presented with a like pseudo-objective character llms try to have. i love ai psychosis it's fun to see but OP you are retarded
I recently contracted a severe case of yellow fever and have been dying to treat it. However, I live in Houston Texas and money is tight at the moment. Is there anywhere within driving distance where I can actually meet asians to shoot my shot with?
>>34039020And?
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>>34029153Anime convention or something
>>34043790Every time I’ve been, it’s been mostly white and hispanic weebs
It's better if it's for grown-ups and stupid, gym-obsessed chads and they're a few kilos heavier than you.
>>34041886Oh look... it the "I won't read yet another..." guy.
>>34044243running is not a martial art. but you already knew that.
>>34043376Wonder if this is bullshit like everything else. All I see is them shooting toddlers.
>>34043349They tape their hands because they’re throwing punches so hard it can cause damage to the hand and wrist bones over time if not outright break them. The reason why boxers wear gloves isn’t to protect each other it’s to protect their hands from breaking while they mash facesI don’t know where you heard that retardation from before
>>34044528It's for when they run out of ammo
>What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!>How to ask for adviceContext is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Resources and Bookshttps://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.htmlhttps://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmamhttps://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34041780That's the thing. I don't know if she finds me attractive too or what. Or if finding out my supposed type made her pull back. Or if she's wondering why I flirt with her and stuff when she isn't supposedly my type.>>34041840I'm quite fond of her. I dunno, and the price is good. But then she adds silly jokes like wanting me to mow her lawn
Would you dudes ever pay a girl for sex? It could be a hot girl you know, or a hot escort or sex worker or whatever. Why or why not?
Almost everybody in my life(men and women) are telling me to get on the dating apps.This is even though they don't have a great opinion of the apps to begin with, and i don't think im going to have a good time either, im short(5'6) Do they secretly hate me or do I go ahead and try?
>>34044358I've never done it out of paranoia of getting fired from a job for it or something. Otherwise, I'd be down to rent some pussy.
>>34044358I would pay to worship her feet but even that is illegal. :(